Relationship Resource
“12 Days of Presence” Gift
DIY "Presence" Present ... The gift of being fully Present
Time is a valuable commodity. No one can buy or acquire more of it. The ultimate do-it-yourself gift is the DIY present of your presence.
It seems that giving time or attention is especially valuable when more and more people appear busier, seem increasingly distracted, or are focused on other pursuits.
This was and is my focus as I left 2020 behind and entered into the new year of 2021.
To walk the walk, for 12 consecutive days my presence was my gift. An open invitation to join me LIVE daily December 25 through January 5, 2021. Or to view the recordings afterward, with full free access available (more details below).
Each day’s content for “12 Days of Presence” addressed some aspect of being fully present, of living and connecting with others. I also shared examples from my own experience, with the goal of being 100% real in real time.
My husband also joined me, who is also a life & relationship coach, and he shared deeply.
Together, our hope is that each person joining us sees how he and I each strive to live and give better — to be our authentic selves and to accept or embrace others through our gift of presence.
Peace + Love,
Brenda
The pandemic has limited what we can do; however, we're only TRULY limited by our own imagination of how things could be.
"12 Days of Presence" ~ Dec.25-Jan.5, 2021 ~ Join live or view recordings
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Day 1 ~ Gift of Ourselves: “The world works better …” helping & sharing (12-minute video)
Day 2 ~ Un-Box Yourself: Man shares emotions, husband talks baggage & feelings (28-minute video)
Day 3 ~ Being fully Present: Emotional inner-work, Revelations, Recharging as an Introvert vs. Extrovert (18-minute video)
Day 4 ~ Un-Wrapping Day 2: Sensitive or Scary sharing-topics & little victories (33-minute video)
Days 5-11 ~ Titles and descriptions below, with details on how to view all recordings
Day 12 ~ Being present works better when … Join us live using the Google Meet link (Jan.5, 4pm Eastern)
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Day 1 ~ “12 Days of Presence” (12-minute video) Gift of Ourselves: “The world works better …” helping & sharing
Guest: Brenda’s husband joins her to kick off this series, where Brenda will be present each day at 4pm Eastern, December 25 to January 5, 2021, for anyone who wishes to join her via Google Meet.
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Note: *Resources mentioned in this video ~ The “celebrate any day” National Day Calendar that lists each world day and the official national (USA) days, weeks, and months; “The world works better …” book (16 pages); The “5 Love Languages” (I use these skills daily. ~Brenda)
Day 2 ~ Un-Box Yourself: Man shares emotions, husband talks baggage & feelings (28-minute video)
Guest: Brenda’s husband describes his journey uncovering and learning about his own emotions, moving from four primary feelings of mad, sad, glad, and scared — and being afraid to rock-the-boat in the marriage by opening up to his wife — to where he is today with himself and their relationship.
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Note: *Resource mentioned in this video includes The “5 Love Languages” (I use these skills daily. ~Brenda)
Day 3 ~ Being fully Present: Emotional inner-work, Revelations, Recharging as an Introvert vs. Extrovert (18-minute video)
Guest: Brenda’s husband returns to discuss what happened after yesterday’s Day 2 (December 26) exchange that played out live between them during the Google Meet.
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Note: *Resources mentioned in this video include The “5 Love Languages” (I use these skills daily. ~Brenda) and the “celebrate any day” National Day Calendar products.
Day 4 ~ Un-Wrapping Day 2: Sensitive or Scary sharing-topics & little victories (33-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband un-pack various aspects of what transpired on their Day 2 (December 26) live exchange and what they’ve gone through to get to this place in their personal growth and relationship with each other.
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Note: *Resources mentioned in this video includes The “5 Love Languages” (I use these skills daily. ~Brenda)
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Day 5 ~ Un-Wrapping Day 2: continued … Building trust and fostering vulnerability through self-awareness and taking responsibility (39-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband continue to un-pack various aspects of what transpired on their Day 2 live exchange, including how Brenda unintentionally blocked communication resulting in him shutting down. Additional areas that affect one’s ability to be fully present to the other are also covered such as role models, triggers, bias and vested interest, “do over” requests, how to share when you don’t have the words, and digital vs. in-person presence.
Day 6 ~ Being present without ‘going deep’; presence with zero conversation (32-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband share about times they given the gift of their presence when the other person was not able to or didn’t want to speak, when the person doesn’t want our involvement, and when it seems little can be done and feeling helpless.
Day 7 ~ Being present when you’d rather not do so (14-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband discuss being present when they “don’t feel like it” and choices they make when they find themselves in this type of situation.
Day 8 ~ Report talk vs Rapport talk and gender differences (20 minutes)
Guest: Brenda and her husband discuss the concepts of Report Talk and Rapport Talk — these differences in conversation between men and women as described in the book “You Just Don’t Understand“ — and how it applies to their personal communication and ability to be present to each other and other people.
Day 9 ~ That’s research; what about real life? (46-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband share how they struggled to move from reading and learning about research concepts to actually applying these to everyday life. They use real-world examples from their own relationship and their interactions in attempting to be present to and communicate with family members.
Day 10 ~ Presence in vulnerable times, protecting confidences, exposure & betrayal (29-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband talk about the importance of keeping confidences and respecting privacy, especially when observing personal situations, when someone is in a vulnerable state, or when a person has opened up to us or was exposed while we were present.
Day 11 ~ The ‘5 Love Languages’ and being present (21-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband share how understanding the “5 Love Languages” has helped them do a better job of being present to each other and that, to some degree, each language requires our presence for giving or receiving in a more effective manner.
Day 12 ~ Being present works better when … (50-minute video)
Guest: Brenda and her husband do some final sharing, using the theme of “Being present works better when …” for this Day 12 of 12 LIVE meetup. They recap with Danny Iny’s “The world works better …” book as a guide for their talking points.
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Note: *Resources mentioned in these videos include …
>> “The world works better …” book by Danny Iny (16 pages)
>> The “celebrate any day” National Day Calendar that lists each world day and the official national (USA) days, weeks, and months (My go-to for fun, creative, simple ideas for celebrating and having some fun. ~Brenda)
>> “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” (I use these skills daily. ~Brenda)
>> “You Just Don’t Understand” (One of the most helpful books for me regarding any type of relationship — personal, professional, family, etc. ~Brenda)
>> “What Every Woman Should Know” (First book I ever read about relationships; the cover images shows how long ago! LOL ~Brenda)
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